I spent several years in Sales Management roles in Corporate Healthcare and the lessons I learned have helped me in my professional and personal life. Yet, let’s face it the mere mention of sales makes many people cringe. Even the dictionary defines it in ways that leave you feeling in need of a hot soapy shower.

to deliver or give up in violation of duty, trust, or loyalty and especially for personal gain : betray; to deliver into slavery for money  to give into the power of another <sold his soul to the devil>

However it also offers these definitions:

to develop a belief in the truth, value, or desirability of: gain acceptance for <trying to sell a program to the Congress> ; to persuade or influence to a course of action or to the acceptance of something <sell children on reading>

While the goal of sales is to influence a course of action the process of getting there does not require you to check good manners and ethics at the door.  It is what happens in that space between lead and sale that sets the tone for any future relationship.

When I was in Sales,  before I ever met with a prospective client, a great deal of work went into understanding their business, challenges, competitors, weaknesses and opportunities. Today, technology has facilitated the sales process but it has not eliminated the need to do the work.  Below are 5 fatal mistakes that are made when selling via social media:

Mistake #1: All talk no listening

Contrary to the myth, in sales you learn to listen twice as much as you talk. You ask open ended questions to engage. You want your prospective client to talk so that you can let them tell you their problems in their own words. In social media, you can listen by reading updates or blog posts BEFORE launching into a pitch.

Mistake #2: Failure to establish a connection

I learned to be attentive to details and my prospect’s surroundings. I would search for an “anchor” that could break the ice and allow us to connect. That anchor could be a photo, a book on their desk, or even a pen. In social media, tune in to the other person’s interests and use that to establish a point of discussion. Read profiles, updates and visit blogs to give you an authentic entry point for conversation.Mistake #3: Dear What’s Your Name

I developed a proposal template that was adopted company wide. The template made it easier to gather information that was commonly used – menu of services, company history, etc – but was always customized to fit the prospect. Do not send a Dear {blank name, wrong name, wrong gender} letter or email. Automated DMs on Twitter and copy and paste Facebook wall posts are other examples of this mistake.

Mistake #4: Rushing the Sale

Hi my name is Karen buy my junk. Would you do this in real life? Yet, somehow people believe that technology has eliminated the need for common courtesy. Here too the ugly automated DM rears its head. Your first tweet to a mutual follower should not be “Hey thanks for following, here’s my link buy my stuff.” Build a foundation, find out their needs and then offer solutions.

Mistake #5: Tuning into the wrong station

In sales we talked about station WIIFM (what’s in it for me) The acronym was a reminder that your prospect could care less about what you needed to sell to make your quota, they always want to know what’s in it for them. Forget about what you want to sell and focus on what people need from their perspective.

All of these mistakes can be quickly eliminated by putting the focus on your prospect and not yourself. Make sure that your web copy, and your social media communications focus on them and not you. Ditch the spammy wall posts and automated DMs and instead focus on participating in your community and listening for needs. Selling when done with integrity and a focus on the other person will leave you and your prospect like winners and that is the true beauty of the process.

What has been your experience online? Any other mistakes or recommendations to add to the list?