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Written by Karen D. Swim
Earlier this week, I watched the TV Show, Private Practice. I was struck by one particular scene in which two characters, Dr. Cooper Freedman and Dr. Charlotte King were discussing a case. The two are dating and below is the transcribed excerpt (Please note that I am not a transcriber so I may not have captured every word perfectly).
Cooper (looking very mopey) :I have a kid with a big head and there’s nothing wrong with him except that he’s going to be ridiculed, mocked and looked down on for the rest of his life.
Charlotte: And that’s your fault?
Cooper: No that’s just me I’m the one who doesn’t fit in, who’s going to be the first out of the practice because they don’t want me on their team anymore. I have a big head.
Charlotte: Oh my god you’re pathetic. You are crazy and pathetic! Big head’s not a problem, it’s a virtue moron. You know who had a big head? Lincoln, JFK, Elvis, Einstein, plenty of people had big heads and they don’t sit and mope that they have big heads so don’t you sit and mope that you’re a pediatrician. Do your job, do it well and screw everyone else. You’re the big head kid, more power to you!
Do you ever feel like you’re the big head kid? The kid who sticks out like a sore thumb because they don’t effortlessly blend in with the crowd. The kid who hangs his head to the ground when teams are being picked, so afraid he’ll be last because no one wants him. The kid who tries to affect an air of confidence while inside she’s quivering like a bowl of jello?
I know I do. There are times that I feel like I don’t fit in or am not as successful or talented as my peers. I get insecure about my worth and accomplishments and like Cooper agonize and mope over my big ole head. it happens to the best of us. We all have moments of doubt, if we’re honest. We wonder what others think of us, if they think we’re good enough to be on their team. Are we as smart as our peers, colleagues, family members? Do we deserve to be on the team or are we the weak link, guaranteed to be kicked out to make room for someone more worthy?
Here’s the good news. You are different. We’re all different. We all have something, a big head, big ears, whatever. If you’re in that place today, where you are not feeling your own press, embrace your big head and let’s roll! You’ve got a big head. It’s not a fault, it’s a virtue. It makes you unique and different. Your goal is not to fit in, to be just like everyone else. You have got a big head. It’s your thing, leverage it. As the character, Charlotte said, do your job and do it well.
YOU are the big head kid. More power to you! Now, let’s roll big head we’ve got worlds to conquer!
I hope you all have a great weekend and please mark your calendar for Monday, October 27th. I am proudly hosting Published Author and Editor, Lillie Ammann on her book blog tour. Lillie will be sharing words of wisdom that are guaranteed to inspire anyone who has a dream. Lillie has also graciously agreed to give away a copy of her brand new book, Dream or Destiny to one lucky Words For Hire reader. The winner will be randomly selected from commenters. So please drop in on Monday, and leave a comment for Lillie. And please share it with friends too! The post should be published by 8 am EST.
Be well,
Karen aka “Big Head”